Tuesday, March 17, 2009

The Results are In...

And she made it back for finals. I wish I had known that the best way to motivate Megan to swim faster was to tell her please do not. She swam nearly a personal best time at prelims, which was almost as fast as she swam when she wore the LZR suit at the December meet, and she was 'tapered' back then. So she came back and swam a half a second faster, which is a lot in a 100 yard race. she came in 17th but only because you can't advance from the heat you're in at finals. She and the girl who came in 16th probably really had about the 9th and 10th fastest times in finals. And that's out of about 100 girls. She is excited for Florida now.

So after finals we made it home in pretty good time, despite my having left the gas tank danerously close to empty, hoping I'd make it back to New Jersey before I ran out, so I wouldn't have to hang my head in shame at the pumps, the likes of which I haven't had to face in over 15 years. I couldn't bear the humiliation of having to ask for help pumping gas, or to look like a prima donna by using full serve when all the rest are pumping their own, simply because I haven't ever encountered the high-tech pumps of the 1990's. Back in the 80s I knew to pay the attendant, then just go and lift the latch, drop in the pump, and squeeze. Now I'm afraid it may be so easy that I wouldn't be able to figure it out! But we made it to the Turnpike service area anyway.

I had turned down a half day of work so I could take Megan in late and get some shopping done. After school, as I waited for E to call for a ride home, Brian came down and said the high school was on the phone for me. ?? It turned out to be the trainer, saying E had fallen and perhaps had a broken collarbone, and I should get it xrayed. Five hours later, we were home with no more than a sling and an alarming rediograph of the carnage inside her shoulder. We were instructed to see an ortho doc today, and I turned down another day of work. Our appointment, the best I could get, I guess noone cares if you walk around in agony with a bone fragment in your shoulder, if at 3:20 today. Stay tuned.

In other news, Puff is happy to curl up and purr next to me, which promotes inefficiency because I want to stay with her. It has taken me two years almost to get her to do this, and I can't sacrifice the luxury. Oh well, never mind. As I wrote that, the other doctor called and I had to get up and she ran away. We now have an appointment at 2 with a doctor who works with the schools. More later. Not proofread.

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Latest from Lancaster

And here we remain. Again, Megan and I only linger in the room, Kevin has already left for the pool. Today is the early swim for the 13/14's, so we get to go over at 8:30. If Megan didn't have to do the 200 back, she could have gone at 11:30! But she does. Then she has the 100 free. We have an agreement. We agree that I don't want her to make it back for finals, so therefore she is going to try extra hard. It's always nice to be a motivator for your child.

The last two days have gone well. In finals in the 200, she bettered her time from the morning swim, but still not a best time, and she got 12th place overall. In the 500 yesterday, she again didn't get a personal best but went into finals seeded seventh and came out fifth, so that was a pretty good swim for her at this meet. Presumably this means that if she is able to swim these times here, she should be able to do even better in Florida when she is 'tapered.'

It's been exhausting, though. Getting up and leaving at 6:40, staying at the pool until early to mid-afternoon, and then coming home for a rushed lunch and nap, only to be back there again by early evening, then having a late dinner, and coming back to bed. There's been no time for homework either, and I know that she brought plenty of that here, and also she missed two important tests/quizzes on Friday (of course). That's the real reason I won't really be disappointed if she doesn't make finals tonight. Unless she was coming back as one of the top seeds, I think that the homework and rest should be taking priority at this point.

In other news, I met up with an old friend and her mother and sister yesterday for lunch. Then she came and watched Megan swim the 500, smashed by the throngs on the overcrowded bleachers. So that was very nice of her. It's strange to see people after 20 years or so and they look and sound the same. She lives not too far from here. Brian and E seem to be enjoying/surviving their weekends. E is hanging with the Doll and having plans pop up here and there just as always but they seemed to have a nice dinner together last night. I don't think anyone checked on the cats yesterday so I imagine I am coming home to a house that stinks like foul litterbox as well as four starving felines. Although Brian and E will probably have to face it first. :-)

Friday, March 13, 2009

Friday Frenzy

Here we are in Pennsylvania. Kevin came out early yesterday and Megan and I arrived on my four new tires at 8:30pm. Yesterday I did nothing but run around trying to get organized for the trip out here. I had to get Brian's things ready for two separate hosts, get Molly and her things ready, and make sure my car was travel-worthy, which apparently involved four new tires, a new something-belt, and a bill for $1000. But we made it.

The meet began early this morning and it went pretty well. Megan didn't swim a best time in the 200 free although at first it seemed like she was going to - her 100 split was a 56, which would normally mean her time would be a 1:56 or better, but she ended up with a 1:57 instead. Then she swam the 100 back, and then a best time in the 1000, but not quite fast enough to qualify for Florida. She can still swim it there, but in time trials, which are held in the heat of the midday sun, after all the other events have concluded. It can be brutal.

But with her 200 time, she requalified for next year unless they make some change. These new suits are enabling more and more swimmers to qualify, which may cause them to have to take drastic measures with the cut times. Although from what I have read, the suits themselves my be regulated more closely within the next year.

Right now she and I are back at our hotel, and she is asleep. We didn't get out of the pool building until 3, having been there since 7, and have to be back at 5:15 for finals. She'll swim the 200 free again, and also some relay, not sure which one. Then to dinner, then to bed, then back to the pool for the sunrise swim at 7 again! After that, it should be an easier day because she has no midday events, so she can come back and sleep, hopefully for finals in the 500, and then Sunday should also be a much lighter day. She has the 100 and MAY qualify for finals, but if she does not, we get to go home after the morning session. So I do have mixed feelings on that wish! Her 100 time is already good enough for Nationals, so that's not a concern, although best times are always good.

In other news, Brian and E spent last night at the Doll's, and E had all sorts of mishaps with the project she procrastinated for three months. But I am sure she pulled it off, she did say it went fine. Brian called me just now to confess that his progress report arrived, and it said that he was missing homework in one class and has inconsistent test scores in another. I am so tired of these things on his reports. And I must now sign off because I am suffering from severe carpal tunnel pains as a result of Kevin's bizzare laptop. He has our good one at the pool for some reason. (disclaimer: post not proofread)

Monday, March 9, 2009

More on Monday

I have work! All day tomorrow. Allegedly, nothing else for Wednesday but this is my day for tomorrow: first grade. =:-O !!!

And the Doll IS in fact recovering. She will be able to help after all; Brian is happily already booked, he doesn't want to switch that. But now E has the backup should her other plans not come through.

I can also leave them there Thursday night now, if I wish. They'll take the buses back here and then get to their destinations on their own afterwards. But I am still considering whether or not I should just stay, and drive out to PA early Friday morning, when I know they've both had a good night's sleep and are up and getting ready for their buses.

So that is that. No other news for the evening.

Midday Monday

So here it is almost noon. At least today I made it to the Y! It's been a long time so I decided to suck it up and go. I haven't been in so long that I had to ask to be reactivated on their fitness computer! So I rode the bike, lifted a few weights, not many at all, and took a walk on the track before stretching and doing some situps. I feel a lot better. Today begins my campaign to look presentable in summer clothes, which I have to be able to do by April 6.

Obviously the fact that I have time to dedicate to my well-being means I have been once again passed-over for work. I won't be able to work Friday, since I'll be in PA (more on that later) but I don't want to work Thursday either, since I may want to leave for PA that night or at the very least I have to be ready to leave or have to be making plans for kids, cats, and the dog. So that leaves me with two possible work days: tomorrow and Wednesday. I am really reaching the point where I am pretty angry about it all and am trying to think of ways to find employment elsewhere. The trouble is, no other place will be this flexible (well if you count a;most never working as 'being flexible' anyway) and I won't be able to work only during the school year. So fortunately, I have paid off all of my Christmas bills and just have to finish paying off the plane fare to Florida and the Phillies tickets I just charged last month. Otherwise, I'm in good shape. Good thing, cuz there ain't nothin' comin' in.

Which leads me to my next woe. I learned last week that the district is going to an automated sub calling system. I'm not sure when, but it basically means that all subs will have the opportunity to log in and snatch up jobs. I liken this in my mind to trying to win a dial-in contest at a radio station. Teachers will be able to request their top few subs, and hopefully some will still remember me after my long absence from their sight. But this could potentially alter the whole playing field, giving just about any sub a fair crack at just about any job. So I'll have to see how that goes. Another option is to branch out into other districts. I don't really have any reason to stay committed to this one, if they won't be committed to me. In two years, I don't expect to even have a child in the schools! (Scary thought that is) But I will hope it goes well. I guess it can't be much worse than it has been this past month, anyway.

And speaking of children in the schools, so far no fallout from my whistleblowing on the bullies. Friday worked out OK, and the weekend as well. Brian spent some time away from home, and then he had a couple of kids here yesterday, so he ended the weekend on a happy note. This will be a busy week for him anyway, because he has a Pt evaluation on Wednesday and on Thursday, I'm hoping to be leaving for PA. He also has a book to work on for his art class. I'm trying to get him to up the quality of the work he turns in. And speaking of PA, onto my other woe: The Doll.

So she is still weak. I imagine it's more coming from being holed up in darkness with very little physical activity for two weeks or more. But she looks good aside from the 'woe is me' face she wears, and the shuffle she does across the floor; however, she claims that just a little trip out the store wiped her out and she had to sleep for the rest of the day. So it seems she may not be able to take Brian and E after all, leaving me to scramble at the last minute. I am having deja vu here, I think that she has done this before. First of all: she had the flu shot, she had a lcear chest xray, she had no fever, and her blood work all came back fine. But it isn't looking good for me for the weekend.

My main problem with Brian is Thursday. I plan to tell The Doll that I will leave Brian and E alone on Thursday night. He has someone to stay with Friday and Saturday, I think. If he does not, he can be dragged, kicking and screaming, to PA with me. E, on the other hand, has nowhere concrete to stay. She has a few people who have supposedly offered their homes to her but I have heard enough of her "I'll figure something out" plans that no way I would be comfortable leaving her with the "yes I think so" answer to the question of whether or not she has someone to stay with. Taking her is also an option, but she would have to miss a day of school. Initially she was willing, but then she changed that, because she believes the girls will come through for her. I can't be that optimistic. I've seen too many smaller plans fall through for me to stake too much that this one won't. So stay tuned.

My only option for Thursday is to get a ride up for Megan, and then leave myself at 4am. That way I'll be here overnight with them, and I'll get up to the pool in time for her Friday events, which are really her most important two, if I may say so ... there's another Saturday, but the two most exciting ones are Friday, and I don't want to miss them.

In other news, it is raining now. I had planned to take both cars to the car wash today because I read the sign that said $2 off on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday at my favorite car wash. Well, maybe tomorrow. I'm still plodding through the work for the program book for this year's team banquet, but I don't have a lot to work with now. I know that someone is going to give me a huge pile and then I'm going to wonder what made me sign up for this in the first place!!! Finally, I guess I have some bills to pay. Speaking of having no money this month, I had better give what little I do have to those creditors before they all come after me and I 'fall off a cliff' like the US economy has done!

Friday, March 6, 2009

Dawn of the New Day

So yesterday I finally did what I have been wrestling with for nearly three years: I spoke to another parent about the bullying that's been going on with Brian. For three years he has been ostracized and teased, with occasional periods of acceptance thrown in just to confuse him. Lately, though, it's gotten worse, from the gum in the hair incident to some other things that have been going on. So I did finally just suck it up and talk to one of the parents. The talk went well, but today will be the day that shows what the true outcome will be. Brian wanted to avoid the bus today so I drove him to school.

In addition to his being picked on, some of the kids have been doing some bad things and blaming them on Brian and another boy. This was the last straw, when I heard about it, I didn't feel I had much choice. Then, after my talk, Brian came home and said he had gotten into trouble on the bus. The bus driver told him and another boy (the other one they pick on, interestingly enough) that they were the worst kids on the bus. What was the crime? Well one boy farted and refused to admit it. Another boy opened the window. I guess it must have smelled awful, because the bus driver assumed it was a stink bomb. One of the other boys mocked her and she didn't realize it, and almost threw the whole bunch of them off the bus to be picked up by parents. Part of the problem when there are many who gang up on few is that certain less perceptive adults will then believe that the few are in fact the ones causing the trouble.

And onto the Doll. Yesterday she requested a chicken. I took it over, and she looked healthy enough aside from the fact that she's shuffling around in her cave in the darkness, all holed up with the TV, doing nothing towards recovery. So I still don't know what will happen for us next weekend. I am still hoping she'll have a miraculous recovery, but I think I'll send them over with a can of Lysol and plenty of airborne!

Today I have a PM work assignment. E again has to be in school by 10:30, and I don't have to be to mine until noon. I think I will actually have lunch immediately upon my arrival, and then 2 1/2 hours with the 5th graders. I've been in this class before, shouldn't be too bad. ::knock wood!!:: I did find out yesterday that they may be doing away with the sub caller and replacing her with an automated system. I'm not sure how that will work out for me, better or worse, but it may be part of the reason they seem to be rotating the list so much. Will this mean that the sub just hired yesterday can snatch up the best jobs? I'm going to have to investigate this. At least it means that the more dedicated subs will at least get to work. Or it could end up being like dialing into a radio station during a contest. I guess we'll find out.

In other news, we have no major plans for this weekend, just getting ready to head out next weekend. The kids all have schoolwork to finish up, and especially Megan, with her missing Friday and the science fair. She has to make sure her project is extra-good for the in-class presentation, because that's where the bulk of her grade is coming from. I have a headache today because I was awakened, first by a dream that my alarm clock was blaring "for some reason I can't explain, I know St. Peter will call my name ..." and then Puff heard me stirring and hopped up onto my headboard, fell off, and shredded my scalp.

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

This and That and Woe is Me

So again, it's been a while. The weekend was unremarkable in the end. The student party was going fine, and in fact the kids were actually picking up the pace and beginning to interact, after a couple of hours of sitting silently in front of the TV, when Kevin's phone rang and it was the Doll. By now it was past 3:30 and we were a minimum of 40 minutes from home. She commanded that there was a prescription that we needed to pick up for her, and we had to get it by five. It turned out she does NOT have pneumonia, nor anything much, they are still saying 'the flu' (ok none of us had shots and we were not nearly as sick as she) and this was an anti-nausea medication. In retrospect, she could have hauled herself out to pick it up. But we had no choice other than to leave the party early. Megan got a ride home from practice, so we didn't even have to worry about her and could have stayed until the party wore itself out.

Which leads us into the next dilemma. The Y meet is next weekend in PA. Brian, E, and Molly were set to stay with the Doll, but if she is that sick, weak, and that much of a mess, that will never work out. So now I just don't even know what to do. We can bring Brian to PA but we can't bring E, she has to be in school for the science fair that Megan is missing. She might have someone to stay with, and Brian does for one night (Saturday), but I have to leave Thursday and won't be back till Sunday quite late.

We really only need someone to stay with them Thursday, Friday, Saturday, or someone they can stay with ... but at this late time I don't know if I can work it out. I can probably find a petsitter, but the problem is Thursday night. I know I can impose Brian on someone for two nights, but I hate to do it for three and don't even think I'd dare ask. So that's the latest crisis. It's not totally an option for me to stay home because I have to take Megan up there Thursday night. Kevin has to go up early, and Megan can't miss two days of school for this. Bad enough she misses one! So stay tuned for how this plays out as the week goes on. I'll have to get creative.

Last night I had a call from the new rep for the Fresh Air Fund. We discussed C and whether or not we would have him back. I told her all that had transpired and said we would like to, we don't want him kicked out of the Fund altogether but we're not sure what to do. She said she'd call me back in ten days but after sleeping on it for just the one night, I can't see how I can NOT have him back. If anyone deserves a break, it's a kid like that. So I think we will have him, the week is in mid-July.

And so we had a snow day on Monday, followed by a delayed opening yesterday. On Monday afternoon/evening, our brilliant district powers-that-be posted on the website that school would be open and state testing would be conducted as planned. Somewhere along the line, they changed their minds. Around 10:00, Megan found out that school was opening 90 minutes late, and since I had been thrown a bone and was working yesterday, I got a call as well. But many people didn't have that luxury, and, having seen the initial post, got up and hauled their poor kids in, only to find out about the poorly publicized change in plans. And now I am off again today. Yesterday she called me with what I thought would be jobs. It turned out to be JOB. One half day, tomorrow. And during the call, she told me she had had nineteen calls out. Nineteen, and I got a half day. I am definitely 'B' list. I don't understand it, but it makes me mad.

So in other news, E is not taking the state testing so she doesn't have to be in until 10:30 all week. The snow is still here and the roads are intermittently covered in icy patches, although they're much better than they were yesterday morning when the side streets were just one solid sheet of ice. Someone around the block has constructed a giant snowman, probably about 15-20 feet tall. After school yesterday they made him a hat, buttons, and a scarf. He looks great! And tonight is the pasta party for the states swimmers. It's being held at our church, and I have to make baked ziti. As with any group that we have accepted responsibility for, I'm anxious for them to leave the place in good order!